In recent years, the term “hunger” has become popular, referring to the (often illogical) anger you feel when your patience is put to the test when you’re hungry.
There is a new portmanteau word “phanga”. It refers to post-pandemic anger, recognized by experts as a symptom of the stress we’ve collectively been through since 2020.
Psychologist Niamh Delmar says evidence of intolerance and anger is growing, both socially and online, as people direct their anger not just at strangers on social media, but at their closest and dearest. said that
“During the pandemic, people’s systems were on full alert, threatened with infection, change and death,” she says. “In addition to regulations and vaccines, restrictions, losses, uncertainties and divisive opinions regarding mask wearing are troubling people. , we are mentally exhausted and adrenaline-fueled, and for some, this stress causes emotional control to spiral out of control, leaking or exploding as an attack.”
Indeed, Irish Restaurant Association CEO Adrian Cummins says Covid has impacted the hospitality sector.
“I have heard cases of customers becoming more irritable, intolerant or angry, but I must stress that these are isolated incidents,” he said. increase. “The cost of living crisis is also exacerbating people’s personal stress, with some staff experiencing the rare ‘overexcited’, who for some reason are probably having a bad day.” You have to serve your customers. ”
The GAA referee, who wished to remain anonymous, said he also noticed that more and more people seemed more annoyed.
“I cover a lot of underage games and have noticed a change in parental behavior over the last few years, and I attribute this to the pandemic,” he said. increase. “Abusive parents become even more pushy, and some become lethargic when someone tackles their child.
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Psychologist Niamh Delmar
Sarah Daly, a mother of three, can relate to this, as she says, “I have no patience for anyone these days.”
“I used to classify myself as fairly relaxed, but my family would probably say I was always dogmatic,” says the Dublin woman. The whole thing really changed me, being told I had to stay home made me feel like I was going to explode one day.
“And now that it’s over, I can’t shake that anger. I’ve had a much shorter fuse, reacting to people’s comments, and being really upset when trains are delayed or someone is slow to serve me at the store.” There are also days when I have to tell myself that I’m not very tolerant at home and that I’m being too snappy with my kids.
“When my kids go back to school, I need to be a little more sober because there are days when I don’t like myself by attending yoga classes, meditation, etc.”
Mairead Molloy says she sees impatience and intolerance around her every day, and it “wears off” and she reacts in the same way.
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Relationship psychologist Mairead Molloy
“Over the past two years, I have noticed that so many people are behaving differently than they used to,” she says. “Whether you’re on a plane, in a store or a restaurant, everyone is untolerant and easily irritable. You can also see the lack of caution, which has definitely crept in with near-disrespect since the pandemic.
“And because this lack of care seems to be everywhere, my fuse has also been cut short. Realizing this, I must bite my tongue more and more.
A relationship psychologist and food disorder expert, she says she’s definitely noticed a shift in her thinking, but she hasn’t let it control her behavior.
“It wasn’t that I was intolerant to begin with, but I have been affected by this change in temperament. It affects you,” says Wexford. she is a woman
“I don’t shout or respond rudely, but I’m not afraid to speak up if I’m frustrated. But a lot of the time, when I find myself frustrated, I just Take a deep breath or need, I’ll just walk away.
“I think the pandemic has made us more sociopathic. People are always on high alert and work ethics are definitely changing. There’s an attitude and I’m sick of it. COVID-19 has affected everyone differently and has left us with a hangover of impatience and frustration.”
Psychologist Peder Maxwell says the uncertainty that has been prevalent since the beginning of 2020 may be responsible for this new wave of anger.
“We’re still rebuilding our post-Covid world, so my advice would be not to mourn 2019 too much,” he says. Try to maintain new skills and pastimes, and if you have experienced a loss, you may be ready to share your grief with a counselor. It was too fast for
“Even if you experience loss, try to be grateful for the positive changes that have come in your life. It’s never too late to pick up on
Warren York, a clinical hypnotherapist, specializes in helping people manage their anxiety and anger. He says there are many ways people try to alleviate these feelings.
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Clinical Hypnotherapist Warren York
“Many of us have so much uncertainty about health, money, and employment that we try to suppress those feelings and not deal with them properly,” he says. It can lead to angry outbursts, often at the wrong time, place, or person.Stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline build up, stimulating the amygdala in the brain and causing inappropriate struggles. It triggers a flight response, which can lead to physical problems such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), sleep problems, and tolerance to stressors, with anxiety and stress being the most common if emotions are not addressed. may reduce the
“I help people deal with and release anger and other emotions safely. Hypnosis is different from stage and screen portrayal.You are always conscious and in control.It is a very positive process.We can feel the body, including the angry response. It taps into the powerful subconscious mind that runs and automates most of your mental and emotional systems.Other talk therapies, such as CBT, can help you deal with anger and emotions. to find out.”
