It’s a nightmare for any parent that your child realizes that you’re doing something you don’t want them to do.
o, you can imagine his horror when Charlie Sheen joins OnlyFans, an 18-year-old daughter, Sam “Sami”, a platform known for hosting sexually explicit content. (People who disagree with me, those who believe that OnlyFans is empowering women, believe that it is “just a job” like everyone else. We listen to those women. You need to tilt and fight to stay safe.).
I can only talk about my reaction as a mother. I have a 10 year old daughter. She grows fast (very fast!) And still sleeps with her favorite doll. She is aware of many social issues such as gender, physiology, LGBT + relationships, racism, sexism, politics and the refugee crisis. I think she needs to know to keep growing into a rounded and tolerant young woman. It will already be.
I talked to her about pornography and tried to warn her about keeping her online – explaining to her the insidious effects she may still not be able to properly grasp (she even has her own phone). Not): Placed on a girl much older than her to share intolerable pressure nudity, lose weight, and participate in endlessly competitive selfie wars on platforms like Instagram increase.
She is banned from using YouTube and does not allow programs like Love Island to watch. She wants to avoid the message that she must be thin and beautiful to be loved.
Yes, I sympathize with the scene. She was very angry and discouraged after she learned that her daughter had set up an OnlyFans account on her Monday (June 13th) and shared her photo of her swimsuit on her Instagram. It reacted. Words: “If you want to see more, click on the link in my biography.”
If I find out that my little girl (and face it, Sami may be 18 years old, but she’s still the “little girl” in the scene) did the same, I’m just like him You’ve hit the roof. To some extent.
The problem is that we may understand his shock and upset, but the 56-year-old scene did something unforgivable (in my mind)-he blames his ex-wife. did.
He said Sami lives with his mother Denise Richards. Two and a half male actors said on page 6: “She is now 18 years old and lives with her mother. This didn’t happen under my roof.”
“I don’t tolerate this, but I can’t prevent it, so I was classy and creative and urged her not to sacrifice her integrity.”
Meanwhile, Richards, who has two daughters of the actor (Sami and Lola Rose, 17,), told the publication: He trusts her and her judgment, but she chooses for herself. “
Listen and Listen: If my daughter joins a paid site known for pornography, I would be more shocked than anyone else, but Richards is right-we can’t control the kids.
What we can do is build an open and loving relationship. There they ask questions and tell you what they are doing without any secrets or embarrassment. We hope that by encouraging open communication without judgment or punishment, you will be able to understand how many options you have.
We can encourage them to act in a way that reflects their incredible value. Put self-esteem and self-esteem at the top of their agenda. Think about the future.
What if they still choose to join OnlyFans when doing it all? So that’s fine. I’m with Richards-we’re here to guide them, not control them. Let them know we are here to pick up the pieces, and trust that we have given them the tools to make good choices.
But by doing what the scene did, blaming the mother, and by doing so, putting the full weight of moral guardian and emotional care at her feet, the scene, in my opinion, I have proved myself to be part of the problem.
“Under My Roof” – Has there ever been a more peculiar cause of blame and shame directed at women (not surprising here)? What is the responsibility of his father? Does it end on the driveway when his daughter sleeps at her mother’s house? The fact that his daughter does not live with him 24/7 is undoubtedly irrelevant. He can still visit, pick up the phone and immerse himself in their lives and their life choices.
Talk openly about moral implications and gender and online harm, helping children build self-esteem and self-esteem (and pointing out personal safety issues)-its responsibility with them It’s with my parents, whether they live or not.
Instead, the scene seems to suggest that those important parenting skills should be left to women. This is an old story. Just this morning, a school friend sent a tweet to our WhatsApp group. “Men outsource mediocre decisions to women, causing” decision fatigue. ” Meanwhile, they can keep their heads for work. Along with the tweet, a friend of mine wrote, “Will anyone else get this?” And the rest of us answered, “So much!”
The reaction of the scene also reminds me of my favorite feminist cartoon “Gender War of Housework”. This reveals a very real problem that most women understand. ) Relationship or domestic situation.
French cartoonist Emma explains this kind of concept of “mental load” (a man considers her a housekeeper, so he expects to ask his partner to do something. increase).
The scene has the right to be upset. But he should also be encouraged to talk to her daughter about it – explain why he is worried about her and show caution and anxiety. He should not use her decision as an excuse to blame women, and should not expect them to do most of their parenting.
