I will be 25 years old in September, but to be honest, I thought it would be a world far from today’s life. Painfully (or comfortably) single, never kissed, and about 400 Tinders match (in 6 years … I’m not counting). ..
The metaphor of an avid reader of a romance novel and an introverted girl falling into a man in a bookstore would have thought that my life was like a book when I was in my twenties. But like Dolly Alderton’s memoirs and the new television adaptation “Everything You Know About Love,” your twenties could be far from the rosy version I had imagined. It is clear that there is. And what if you are single in your twenties? Well, I think it resembles a book after all. The book belongs to Dolly.
When I was growing up, I wasn’t one of the girls who planned her wedding or decided how many babies she would have – but I was firmly aiming There was one thing. As a teenager, I fell in love when I was young, married in my mid-20s, and dreamed of spending the rest of my life with the knotted person.
My childhood friend was idyllic and it was like something I could lag behind. Always on the lookout for the hustle and bustle of the classroom that I might have liked secretly, I always thought I would fall in love at the age of 18 and get married seven years later. I imagined talking to my grandchildren how they fell in love from the other side of the classroom, how they met while studying on the bus or train, or in the library. Needless to say, this didn’t happen, and as I approached 25, everything I thought I knew about love was a lie, like the BBC-adapted woman in Dolly Alderton’s book.
As a single woman in 2022, you’ll be hit by a traumatic situation, talking on a hot and cold stage, talking about red flags and pinks, and unrequited love with a more stinging “illness” than a bee. I have experienced more romance than a hot cup of coffee or countless conversations.
To be honest, I’m not sure where I got my first idea about my twenties or where I fell in love. Given what I first wanted in my life, it now seems completely unattainable, but some people of my age seem to “have everything”. I’ve seen people of the same age who achieved what I originally wanted. They have a mortgage, a long-term boyfriend, a baby on the way, a financial car, and a gray crushed velvet sofa.
In my twenties, I am single and live at home with my mother and cat. I work most of the time and live a life more like a woman in Dolly Alderton’s new series than the nuclear family of the 1960s. In fact, I’m a little relieved. Of course, I’m a little worried that I couldn’t find love before I was 25. I was really hoping it would happen, but at the same time I’m not angry.
There was nothing in my life that I thought. As a young, free and single woman, I will once again step into the next chapter of my life. But like many other single girls in their twenties, I need to enjoy the fact that one day I have the freedom to really understand who I am before I inevitably fall in love. I noticed.
Moreover, these years of navigating life, making mistakes and learning lessons are really valuable. And like Dolly Alderton, I can one day tell a wonderful story.
