Sixteen months after the horrific crash, Leybe O is still struggling to deal with what appears to be an endless cycle of surgery to treat fiancé loss and burns.
However, a stranger seems to be intensifying her pain.
When reading Netizen’s comments about a car accident in Tanjong Pagar last February, 28-year-old Oh had to hold back his tears. It killed her fiancé and four of their friends.
Former stewardess is once again facing online Vitriol after news coverage of a coroner’s investigation into the crash on Thursday (June 9).
The comments are directed to her and her fiancé, Jonathan Long, 29, who was the driver of the crash on February 13, last year.
Some netizens curse both families and go to the point of expressing joy at the death of five men.
She tried to do her best in front of her friends and family, but unfriendly comments began to hurt her.
Talking to The Straits Times on Thursday, she admitted to internalizing some of these negative comments.
“I deserve it. I know there are many unfriendly comments, but I choose to read them,” she said.
“I’m sorry to set a bad example, and I’m paying for it.”
She is heavily influenced by her comments, but those targeting Mr. Long and his family are particularly crushed.
“Please, I can still deal with what’s targeting me, but our family has nothing to do with what happened,” she said.
“Our parents have experienced a lot. They are good people who have done their best to raise us. Leave the elderly alone. We happened, not them. I am responsible for that. “
She is part of a group of friends drinking at Tanjong Pagar’s restaurant, and some of them have decided to test drive Mr. Long’s new BMW M4.
When Mr. Long took four friends-Wilson Theochishan, 26 years old. Elvin Tan Yong Hao, 28 years old. Eugene Yap Zheng Min, 29 years old. Gary Wong Hong Chi, 29, crashed into a shophouse pillar for a spin.
According to a coroner’s investigation, he was driving at speeds up to 148 kmh and collided with a pillar between 87 kmh and 99 kmh.
Mr. Oh, who was not in the car, rushed to the crash site to save the people in the car. She burned up to 80 percent of her body.
She often thought about the day and said she was receiving professional help and treatment to deal with the trauma.
But lately, the pain of what has happened is becoming more and more intolerable.
“Previously, there weren’t really any accident nightmares or flashbacks. I was able to watch videos posted online,” she said.
“I thought I was doing everything well, but now I can’t. I don’t have the courage to watch that night’s video.”
She doesn’t know what caused the sudden change.
She said she was now overcome by fear of relive the moment she lost her fiancée in a violent clash.
Explaining Mr. Long as her best friend, she said there was pain in her chest whenever his reality no longer hit her.
“I lost my best friend who shared everything,” she said. “The pain is different when I think about why I couldn’t get a hug from him after yelling at him or having a rough day.”
She saw the love of his family and wanted to marry Mr. Long.
“He’s filial and sweet, and his parents are a loving couple who set a good example for him,” she said.
“I think he was a loving partner, he followed in the footsteps of his parents and was also a loving father.”
Long’s father, Long Saitu, attended the hearing on Thursday. He declined to comment when ST approached. He was seen holding a pamphlet on how to deal with the sadness of losing a loved one.
Mr. Oh, who was also a singer at the Getai event, has undergone about 40 surgeries such as skin grafting and scar treatment since the accident.
She has a lot of pain for several days after each surgery.
Her injuries also made her skin sensitive to the sun and heat, and she now spends most of her time indoors.
She said she was trying to be good for the people around her.
She has had surgery this week and is currently absent, and the other is scheduled for about two weeks later.
“I can only cry to deal with, but I keep telling myself to think of my mother, my dad, my brother, and John’s family, which I also love.” She said.
“I don’t want them to worry, so I need to be strong.”
